Miaina, mitia, mihomehy

fisaintsainanaBetsaka ny eritreritra no nataoko tato ho ato ary nanjary tononkalo niaraka tamin'ny zanako lahy teo amin'ny fiainana, ny fitaizana, ny asa, ny fifandraisana, sns. Tonga eo aminao tsikelikely ny fiainana ary terena ianao handray fanapahan-kevitra izay tsy tadiavinao mihitsy.

Dingana 1: Fanambadiana

Tokony ho 8 taona lasa izay dia ny fisaraham-panambadiana no nataoko. Tsy maintsy nieritreritra aho hoe afaka miatrika ny maha-ray 'faran'ny herinandro' na tsia. Ity farany no nofidiako satria tsy ho velona aho raha tsy eo ny zanako.

Nandritra ny fisaraham-panambadiana dia tsy maintsy nitady izay karazana lehilahy aho. Moa ve aho ho lasa vady taloha tezitra izay nisarika ny vadiny taloha hiditra sy ivelan'ny fitsarana, niteny ratsy ny zanany taloha tamin'ny zanany lahy, sa handray ny fitahian'ny fananako ny zanako ary handeha amin'ny làlambe. Mino aho fa nandray ny làlambe. Mbola miresaka amin'ny vadiko taloha foana aho ary mivavaka ho an'ny fianakaviany aza indraindray fantatro fa sahirana izy ireo. Ny marina dia, tsy dia misy angovo firy amin'ity fomba ity ary tsara kokoa noho izany ny zanako.

Dingana 2: Asa

Eo am-piasana dia mila mandray fanapahan-kevitra ihany koa aho. Namela asa tsara mihoatra ny vitsivitsy aho tao anatin'ny folo taona lasa. Namela iray aho satria fantatro fa tsy ho tonga amin'izay tadiavin'ny lehibeko mihitsy aho. Nandao iray hafa aho vao tsy ela akory izay satria tsy tanteraka ny tenako. Ao amin'ny a asa mahafinaritra izao izany no mihaika ahy isan'andro ... saingy fantatro fa tsy ho eto mandritra ny folo taona intsony aho eto izao.

Tsy hoe manana fisalasalana aho fa vao maika mahazo aina amin'ny 'akany' amin'ny Marketing sy Teknolojia. Tiako ny mihetsika haingana any am-piasana. Rehefa miadana ny raharaha ary mila ireo fahaiza-manao tsy mahaliana ahy ny orinasa dia tsapako fa tonga ny fotoana hirosoana (ao anatiny na any ivelany). Fantatro fa rehefa miasa amin'ny heriko aho dia olona sambatra kokoa noho ny manahy momba ny fahalemeko.

Dingana 3: Fianakaviana

Manakaiky ny 40 taona aho izao ary tonga amin'ny teboka iray amin'ny fiainako izay tokony handraisako fanapahan-kevitra amin'ny fifandraisako ihany koa. Taloha, nandany hery be tamin'ny fananana fianakaviana iray 'reharehako' aho. Amin'ny lafiny maro, ny hevitr'izy ireo dia zava-dehibe kokoa noho ny ahy. Rehefa nandeha ny fotoana dia tsapako fa norefesin'izy ireo tamin'ny fomba hafa tsy misy hafa ny fahombiazako.

Ny fahombiazako dia refesin'ny fahasambaran'ny zanako, ny kalitao sy ny habetsaky ny finamanana mafy orina, ny tambajotran'ireo mpiara-miasa amiko, ny fanajana azoko any am-piasana, ary ny vokatra sy serivisy omeko isan'andro. Mety ho hitanao fa tsy tao ny lohateny, laza na harena. Tsy izany ary tsy hisy intsony.

Vokatr'izany, ny fanapahan-kevitro dia ny hamela olona any aoriana izay manandrana misintona ahy midina fa tsy manandratra ahy. Manaja, tia ary mivavaka ho azy ireo aho, saingy tsy handany hery amin'ny fiezahana hampifaly azy ireo intsony. Raha tsy mahomby amin'ny hevitr'izy ireo aho dia afaka mitazona ny heviny izy ireo. aho tompon'andraikitra amin'ny fahasambarako ary tokony hanaiky ny andraikiny izy ireo.

Amin'ny maha-ray ahy dia faly aho hoe iza ny zanako amin'izao fotoana izao, ary tiako izy ireo tsy misy fepetra. Ny resadresaka ataontsika isan'andro dia momba ny zavatra vitany, fa tsy tamin'ny tsy fahombiazany. Izany dia nilaza fa sarotra amin'ny zanako aho raha tsy miaina mifanaraka amin'ny mety ho vitany.

Nihena be ny naotin'ny zanako vavy tamin'ny herinandro lasa teo. Heveriko fa ny ankamaroany dia ny fiainam-piarahamoniny no nanjary zava-dehibe noho ny asan'ny fianarany. Nanaintaina azy izany rehefa nahazo ny naotiny. Nitomany tontolo andro izy satria mpianatra A / B matetika. Tsy ny fahadisoam-panantenako no hita, fa ny fahadisoam-panantenany.

Katie dia tia mitarika ao am-pianarana ary mankahala ny ho any ambany. Nanao fanovana vitsivitsy izahay - tsy nisy namanay nitsidika tamin'ny alina sy tsy makiazy. Ny makiazy no sarotra… Tena noheveriko fa handoro lavaka amiko izy amin'ny masomaso. Tao anatin'ny herinandro anefa dia nanomboka niverina ny naotiny. Tsy mandrehitra lavaka amiko intsony izy, ary nihomehy ahy mihitsy aza ny androny tao anaty fiara.

Fihetsika mahery vaika avo lenta io, fa manao izay tsara indrindra vitako aho mba hanamafisana ny lafy tsara fa tsy ny ratsy. Miezaka mitarika azy ireo mankany amin'ny làlan'ny ranomasina mahafinaritra aho, tsy mampahatsiahy azy ireo ny tafio-drivotra aoriany intsony.

Rehefa mahazo aina amin'ny zanako ny zanako, lasa tiako kokoa ny hoe lasa iza izy ireo. Gaga ahy isan'andro ry zareo. Manan-janaka mahatalanjona aho… saingy tsy diso ny fiheverako hoe iza no 'heveriko fa tokony ho izy' na 'ahoana no tokony hataon'izy ireo'. Ho hitan'izy ireo izany. Raha faly amin'ny tenany izy ireo, ny lalan'izy ireo amin'ny fiainana ary miaraka amiko… dia faly ho azy ireo aho. Ny fomba tsara indrindra azoko ampianarana azy ireo dia amin'ny fampisehoana azy ireo ny fihetsiko. Hoy i Buddha: "Izay mahita ahy mahita ny fampianarako." Tsy afaka nanaiky bebe kokoa aho.

Dingana 4: Fifaliana

Tadidiko a fanehoan-kevitra fotoana fohy avy amin'ny 'namana virtoaly' tsara, William izay nanontany hoe: "Fa maninona ny Kristiana no mila mamantatra ny tenany foana?". Tsy novaliako mihitsy ilay fanontaniana satria tsy maintsy nieritreritra betsaka momba izany aho. Marina ny azy. Kristiana maro no manambara hoe iza izy ireo miaraka amin'ny fihetsika 'masina kokoa noho ianao'. Manana ny zony hanoherana ny olona momba an'io i William. Raha mametraka ny tongotrao ianao, dia miomàna hamaly ny antony nahatongavanao tao!

Tiako ho fantatry ny olona fa Kristiana aho - tsy hoe satria iza aho fa satria izay antenaiko ho indray andro any. Mila fanampiana amin'ny fiainako aho. Te-ho olona tsara fanahy aho. Tiako ny namako hahafantatra ahy ho toy ny olona iray izay niahy, namitsiky ny tarehin'izy ireo, na nanome aingam-panahy azy ireo hanao zavatra hafa amin'ny fiainany. Rehefa mipetraka eo am-piasana aho miasa miaraka amina mpivarotra maditra na bibikely izay saika hikirakira olana manodidina ahy dia mora amiko ny manadino ilay sary lehibe ary manonona teny vitsivitsy. Mora ho ahy ny tezitra amin'ireo olona ao amin'ilay orinasa izay manome ahy fotoan-tsarotra.

Ny fahitako (voafetra) ny fampianarana inoako inoana dia milaza amiko fa ireo olona ao amin'ilay orinasa hafa dia mety miasa mafy, manana olana izay ezahin'izy ireo resena, ary mendrika ny faharetana sy fanajana aho. Raha lazaiko aminao fa kristiana aho dia manokatra ahy amin'ny fitsikerana izany rehefa mpihatsaravelatsihy aho. Mpihatsaravelatsihy aho (matetika loatra) ka aza misalasala mampahafantatra ahy fa tsy Kristiana tsara aho, na dia tsy mitovy finoana amiko aza ianao.

Raha afaka mamantatra ny dingana 4 aho, dia avelako ho olona sambatra tokoa ity tontolo ity. Fantatro fa hiaina fifaliana marina aho… Nahita an'izany karazan'olona izany aho ary tiako ho ahy izany. Ny finoako dia milaza amiko fa zavatra Andriamanitra te izaho hanana. Fantatro fa misy io zavatra azo alaina io, saingy sarotra ny mandà ny fahazaran-dratsy ary manova ny fontsika. Mbola hanohy azy io ihany aho.

Manantena aho fa tsy dia mailaka loatra ity lahatsoratra ity ho anao. Nila namoaka kely momba ny olan'ny fianakaviako aho ary nanampy ahy tamin'ny fomba mangarahara ny fanoratana mangarahara. Angamba hanampy anao koa izany!

13 Comments

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    GREAT post! And I love knowing that I’m not the only parent that punishes by taking away the makeup. My daughter thinks eyeliner is her best friend. It’s amazing how quickly she “gets it” when she’s not allowed to have it. 🙂

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      Eyeliner is the father-of-a-13-year-old’s enemy. 🙂

      I think make-up is a slippery slope. I’ve never been a fan of a lot of make-up and my theory is that women use more and more because they get desensitized to how beautiful they really are. So… if you’re 13, you wind up looking like a Picasso by the time you’re 30.

      With a make-up break, I’m hoping Katie can see how beautiful she is and then use less later.

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        I agree. Although my daughter’s eyeliner skills came in very handy tonight as I was getting ready for the Heartland Film Festival Crystal Heart Awards gala. She proclaimed that I was “doing it wrong” and proceeded to very tastefully make up my eyes. Yeah, I’m not a big fan of makeup, mostly b/c I don’t like spending the time on it. Many women that put it on with a trowel should stop b/c they are actually very beautiful underneath. You’re a good father for trying to teach your daughter what beauty really is.

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    Wow, what a post Doug! I really like your attitude.

    You know, there’s a great overlap between Christianity and Islam when it comes to family and social values. A lot of what you said you believe in exemplify many of Islam’s teachings. It’s funny that sometimes non-Mulsims like you do a better job of demonstrating Islamic values than some Muslims themeselves.

    So for this, I salute you! Keep up the positive attitude. You’re a great blogger, and you sure as hell sound like a hell of a dad.

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      Thanks AL,

      It’s funny you say that. I have read the Qur’an and have some friends that are Islamic. Every time we get together we find so much in common between our religions. Thanks for your compliments as well – I don’t think I’m as a good a parent as I could be, but I am trying!

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    Sorry to say it, but this post has me debating whether to unsubscribe or not – for a few reasons:

    1. This is a blog about marketing (or that is my impression). While it’s fine to add personality and fine to mention your beliefs, a long post about religion turned me off.

    Don’t get me wrong; religion is fine and I respect your beliefs. But religion is personal, and I don’t really think it has a place on a business blog. If I wanted to read about religion, I’d subscribe to blogs with religious views.

    2. Writing about a teenage girl crying all day over bad grades makes me feel sick to my stomach. The kid isn’t disappointed, she’s most likely scared of your reaction!

    3. Writing about punishing a kid for bad grades after she cried all day (which isn’t really a normal teenage girl reaction) makes me feel even sicker. Punish someone when they’ve done something wrong and don’t regret it, sure. But when someone has made a bad choice, realized it, learned from it and is ready to do better next time, leave it at that. Let the girl build confidence. Let her do better because she wants to – not because she’s scared of punishment.

    I respect that you may or may not agree with me. I just thought you might like to know why this blog post missed the mark completely with me.

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      Hi James,

      Thanks for taking the time to write. If you feel compelled to unsubscribe, I’d be sorry to see you go but I’m okay with that. This is not a corporate blog, it’s a personal one. As such, I advise my readers on my craft but I’m also transparent in relaying my beliefs with my readers.

      Over time, I’ve become great friends with readers of my blog – mostly in part to the fact that I share both my work and my life with my readers. I do; however, keep my personal posts in my “Homefront” category so that you can avoid reading them if you’d like.

      I respect your opinion on what happened with my daughter as well. My daughter isn’t locked up anywhere :), she has quite a setup… cell phone, mp3 player, computer, television, etc. so she’s hardly ‘punished’ although taking away makeup was what gave her a hard time. I can guarantee you that she is not afraid of me. She may get upset if she thinks she disappointed me, but I’ve never given Katie a reason to be ‘scared’.

      I’m not so sure, at 13, I should have ever allowed her to put on makeup but she’s a good girl with good grades and a great attitude – so I try to give her the freedom she wants. When she shows me she can handle it, I never put boundaries on her. If you’re a parent, you know how difficult these situations are.

      I hope you stick around and get to know me! There’s good info on this blog and I love to share what I learn in the industry.

      Cheers,
      Doug

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    Fair enough, Doug. I have a business blog as well with a category called “Personal Ramblings” for the same kind of stuff. The site’s layout and coverage so far had given me the impression it was a strictly business blog.

    I find myself in a very odd position on the Internet. I’m Canadian, and our culture tends to be far more quiet about religion than our American neighbors, many of which who tend to be quite extremist (in my opinion, and I’m not saying you’re extremist). I respect people’s beliefs and have my own as well, I just don’t like being force-fed.

    Unfortunately, that extremism has left me very wary of being bible-thumped, and my radar for the incoming thumping seems to be set on high sensitivity. So if I won’t get thumped here, I’ll stick around. Fair deal?

    As for daughters… It’s good to hear that you recognize teens need that freedom, and thanks for clearing that up. I firmly believe the tighter the leash, the more trouble parents set themselves up for. I also don’t “get” parents who wield a heavy hand with their kids. It just isn’t the answer.

    And…Got a 14-year-old and a toddler myself, so I can relate to the challenges of parenting and the power of makeup.

    Thanks again for your response. I had a bit (okay a lot) of a knee-jerk reaction to the post, so to share a little about me so you don’t think I’m a complete ass, read up on my post about knee-jerk reactions.

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      We Americans like to shove everything in everyone’s face – war, wealth, technology, music, religion… you name it and we’re proud of how bad we mess it up! When one of us is sincere, it’s difficult to take us serious.

      I lived in Vancouver for 6 years, graduating from High School there. In fact, my Mom’s side of the family are all Canadian. My grandfather is a retired officer from the Canadian forces. I’m a huge fan of Canada and can still sing the anthem (in English, I forgot the French version). My mother is Quebecois, born and raised in Montreal.

      I joke with my high school buddies that America couldn’t ask for a better toque than Canada!

      Thanks for your thoughtful response… I never took it that way at all.

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